Relationship fanboyism

NOTE: This post was in response of an e mail. The e mail has not been disclosed at the request of the sender. The reply posted here is NOT a full reply, but a generic one that i thought i could share with the public. Read if for what its worth. Respect a person's cry for help.

Oh btw, absolutely have no idea what picture to use in this post. And since people complain about the lack of pics, i'll just leave something unrelated this time.


Thing is often we know the real answers to our problems but we subconsciously refuse to admit it.


I'll ask you this, and you are to answer my questions, to yourself, honestly and without bias of emotions. Emotions drown out reasoning, and makes one make decisions that are not always right.


1. You say she was everything, u gave up so much for her, u say u saw her and immediately knew she was the one. How? And no, telling me "you just know" or any sentence with the words "feel" or anything else to convey feelings is not the answer. Because feelings are biased like I said earlier. I doubt you can give me a satisfactory answer. What is a satisfactory answer? Imagine your baby sister tells u she likes this guy. And u want to know why.


This is an example of what's been happening to u.


Imagine this guy, who comes to u and says "dude why are u using that phone. Change to iPhone! iPhone fucking rocks! It does it's the best phone eveeeeeerrrrr"


And u ask him why is it the best phone ever. And he can't give u the answer other than "dude it just issssss"


Fucking stupid retarded brainless fanboy.


Compare him to yourself. See the problem?


Think about it before reading on, and read what I said a few times......



Thing is a relationship doesn't start out as THE relationship. A relationship and date is to evaluate your partner to figure out if she's the one.


When you skip the "trial period" and evaluate your choice (at the risk of making the girl sound like an object) and straight away decide she's the best, you become an annoying, "deaf" fanboy. No advice is going to get through to you, no flaw is going to be noticed, while every simple action will seem like a miracle. You become biased.




And for you it has had disastrous results! For in your actions you've screwed up your own ability to appeal and support your partner! Even if she is the one that u find to your liking in the end, she would find it difficult to find u to be the one for her. And if she does, well, she's a "fanboy" too. And two fools in love make for the worst, shortest realtionship.




I would recommend reading my blog posts "difference between love and relationships" and "how to get over a relationship". Read it and reread it.


It's not too late. It never is. Believe me, because I know people who have screwed up worse than u but make it through and find love.




Remember, while love is about emotions, never let emotions dictate your decisions. It is never rational. And irrational decisions are random, and fail as often as they succeed. They key is using emotions to complement your rational decisions